Archive for June 5th, 2010
Posted on June 5, 2010 - by Nurse Virginia
When young people move into the academic community, it’s time for the family to step back; however, it’s the reverse when the elder moves into the nursing home. During entrance into the nursing community elders need the family to step forward. The typical picture of elders in the nursing community is one of hopelessness and helplessness. Often the family feels much the same way.
Through a lifetime of experience, many times elders have gone through the grieving process. The way in which they handled grief in the past can support them through this time of further loss and grieving. During times of grief and loss, the last thing they want is something new, and yet new seems to be all they have.
Many become angry or resentful. These are normal reactions to grief. Along with that is the need to find someone or organization to blame. It’s usually safe to blame family members as they express their anger, resentment, and frustration. Elders are wise enough to realize that if they express their frustration toward the nursing staff they may be perceived as being difficult.
Families can help new residents avoid being labeled as difficult. They can do that most effectively by taking an active role in the nursing community team.
Book excerpt: Please Get To Know Me – Aging with Dignity and Relevance
I wrote this book because of the strong feelings people have towards nursing homes. Because of the many families I have seen, so uncomfortable visiting. The families, who don’t know what to say anymore to their Mom, except to quiz her on what she had for lunch. The families, who feel quilt about Mom being in a nursing home and so find fault with the staff.
Learn how to become an effective part of the team caring for your loved one in the nursing home.
Virginia Garberding, R.N.
Director of Education, The Wealshire, Lincolnshire, Illinois
Author: Please Get To Know Me – Aging with Dignity and Relevance